Monday, October 5, 2009

annoyed

I promise to return later this evening with a weekend update (because I just know the suspense is killing you).

In the meantime please allow me to rant for a few moments about something that's been weighing heavily on my mind for a few days.

Right now on my counter top sits two stacks of reply cards, the 'yes pile' & the 'no pile'.
The 'no pile' is getting to be pretty high.
I'm okay with this because we were prepared for it.
With the wedding being a destination wedding of sorts for about 95% of our guests and with the economic times we didn't kid ourselves and think everyone could attend.
I mean people have lives, they have families and jobs they can't leave behind.

Do you know what does upset me though?
The family members who aren't attending.
The family members who didn't even bother to say "listen, I wish I could make, but I can't because....".
Instead they just simply aren't coming.
Now I'm not going to pretend my family is all as close as I'd like us to be and I accept my side of the blame for that.
BUT is it so crazy of me to expect something happy and joyous like a wedding to bring people together?
I don't think so.

I can't imagine missing a wedding of one of my family members.
I really can't.

So yes, yes my feelings were hurt.
But I'm ready to move on and be happy with the wonderful friends and family (lots of them) who are making the trip to be with us on our wedding day.

So a BIG, BIG THANK YOU to those of you are pushing the pause button on your own lives to celebrate with us.
It means more than you can probably know.

Okay, I'm feeling much better now.

Back to baking baby cakes.
See you soon my sweets.

5 comments:

  1. aw, i'm sorry. my feelings would have been really hurt too. i'm glad the venting helped though!

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  2. Well, I've been scrambling to get someone to cover my shift, but I haven't actually received an invitation so I'm not sure if I'm invited. I know Dad and Julie told Jane they'll be there. Are others not coming? That's sad.
    Love Aunt Nancy

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  3. I'm sorry Em :( I'm sure even a note or phone call would have made it feel a heck of a lot better. My feelings would have been hurt too..

    The good news is, you and Pepe are surrounded by a ton of friends who have stepped in at a later stage in your life and have taken a small role as 'family'. You will be so smothered with love and support, you won't even want us around :)

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  4. Hey Ems! I am not sure who is not coming, but it is their loss. You need to focus on who will be there and know that you will be surrounded by love. I can't wait to see you walk down the aisle and thank you for letting me be a part of such a special day. Looking forward to it.
    Love, Aunt Tammy xoxo

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